TIME TO PUT ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES (THE SEXY BLACK ONES)
"Never apologize for being a powerful fucking woman."
I used to be afraid.
Afraid to be sexy. Afraid to own my body. Afraid to claim my right to my feminine energy and own my fierce.
I grew up in a culture/religious atmosphere where sexuality was taboo. It wasn't safe to be desirable. It wasn't "right" to be a sexual person. It was a SIN to be a sexy woman.
You would be judged. Talked about. Assumed about. Excommunicated about.
If you were a sexy woman, then what did that say about you??? Were you labeled as promiscuous? unworthy? ostracized? A"slut"? (God I despise that word.)
When I first moved to Vegas, and many years after that, I struggled. Everything I knew about what it meant to be "sexy", didn't feel safe. It was a direct conflict; psyche vs. presence. It is HARD to go on stage and not feel comfortable in your skin... especially as a female performer in Vegas.
It has taken me YEARS of unlearning, & re-training myself in order to be comfortable in my sexuality. And claim my power in it. And the truth is... I see soooooo many women struggle with this exact issue. I STILL struggle with it. And it's no wonder...
It is not a mystery why women have not felt safe to own themselves. Generationally, there is so much trauma surrounding women and our bodies & our sexuality. It has been used against us for so long... by society, by men, by each other, by ourselves. Even to this day... by lawmakers, religion, the media. It is no mystery why we have stepped away from owning or bodies and the powerful feminine energy that is innately ours.
It feels too big, too scary, too uncontainable. We've been conditioned to disown ourselves.
But here's the truth, sisters...
Your feminine energy is the most powerful force in this Universe. And we ALL have it. (yes men too, but that's a different story...). YOU are the creators, the freedom makers, the free-flowing energy that people fight wars for. YOU are bigger, more powerful, and more beautiful than can be contained. YOU can't be contained.
YOU are phenomenal.
And you are safe to OWN it. It is already yours. It can not be taken away from you. Ever.
It is all YOU. It's in you now. And it is all in your power to use as you will.
It can create and it can destroy.
And it's time to take it back... Take it all back. To own, embody, feel, use, and LOVE your body again. To embrace your femininity. Your darkness. Your brilliance. Your light. Your self.
You are WOMAN. POWERFUL. BRAVE. FREE.
Love always, J xo