PERFECTIONISM IS THE SILENT THIEF
“Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.” -Brene Brown
You wait because it's not "perfect". You wait to lose that last five pounds. You wait to publish until you get your website perfected. You talk yourself out of doing something now because you want to be things to be a certain quality... Not now, not yet, only when it's better... Only when I'M better.....
But all that happens is another week, month, a year goes by & things don't get done. Things are still not "perfect". And nothing ever gets done... In fact, the only thing that gets done, is you confirming and buying into your limiting belief that you are a failure, that you need to be better, that things need to be "perfect" moving forward. And ultimately only confirming that your perfectionism is a good thing. It is a devastating cycle.......It is a silent thief.
Your need to have things perfect is a sneaky way to keep yourself playing small. Now I'm not saying that we shouldn't have a desire to put out quality content. Of course, we want things to be as good as possible. But the idea of "perfection" is where we will get tripped up.
1. It will never be "perfect". It's impossible. We will always find something that could be better.
2. If we dig deeper, we can see how we hide behind the idea of being a "perfectionist". If we need to have things be perfect before we move forward, we are able to let ourselves off the hook to be imperfectly vulnerably seen. ... (Which ultimately is where all the magic lies anyways.) Our sub-conscious is sneaky, & will sabotage our efforts to be vulnerable. Perfectionism is just a way to protect yourself but ultimately keeps you from stepping into your greatness.
It's time to stop hiding behind the need to be "perfect". It is a losing game, my friend. All the greatest artists & entrepreneurs have made moves before they feel ready. They have a standard of quality but don't allow themselves to get caught up in the quicksand of perfectionism.
You are bigger than your fears. You are not meant to play small sister. You were put here to use your voice. Show up and share your message. We need you, and the gifts that only you can bring.
Love, J xo